A daughter first…..
Today I am blessed with the two most beautiful and the most wonderful daughters. There is nothing more I can ask for. I have hopes and dreams for them. Being a mother you want them to become great mother’s one day, Insha Allah….
As for me I am a daughter myself. I am trying hard to give my daughters what I did not get as a daughter. I did not have a close relation with my mother. I was afraid to tell her anything. Today while lying down I tried to remember good memories of my child hood and I could not recall anything I did with my mother, other than going out for a walk around the marine drive. I have always had a hard time with my mom. For the past 20years I have been confronting with my mom, trying to come to terms with her over the only property I have, the house that was inherited to me from my father. This has been a never ending battle for me and I have always, till today been giving in cause she is my mother. I rarely talk to her and things are always easy as long as I don’t bring up the topic of the house. This has created such a distance between us. Whenever I talk about it she would tell me to let her stay there until she dies, but who knows who would die first. The major problem is that she does not trust me. She feels that if she moves out from the house I would not let her in…..How can I convince her that all I am trying to do is to give a home for my kids. She doesn’t trust me when I tell her that she could move in once the house is built. With her living there I cannot do it.
Living in a rented apartment after renting out whatever is available from my home, I am living happily and comfortably with my kids. But one day I want to move into my own house. The place where I grew up in, though there aren’t any sweet memories attached to it.
I want my kids to have a home which they can call their own when they get married. I want my dream home………..Gosh! I am getting old…I don’t grow any younger…..I want to live in my own home…I just hope that my mom would come to her senses soon and give in…Every day I wait impatiently to a call from her telling me to get an apartment for her so that I can start work….I have waited all these years..I’ll wait…After all she is my mother…Though I do not talk to her often or see her often I care about her and wants her to be happy….
Whom to Trust???
We are afraid to leave our child at home…..because you never know who would interact with your child while you are away….But how many of us have a choice to stay home and be with the kids? But can you be on the outlook 24/7….it’s impossible…It’s not a matter of you being at home or not…If the fathers and the mothers are abusing the children than who would not…
The recent news of the Kulhudhuffushi father, abusing his two daughters really shocked me. Well. it’s not the first time we heard such a news, but the story itself was really difficult to digest. We live in such a small community and we know each and each other’s business. It’s difficult to hear that the community knew about this for the past 5 years. The fact that the children were kept out from school, the mother was involved in this throughout….. Why didn’t she come out…was she that helpless…to sacrifice her own children just to save a marriage…A marriage????
The most difficult question is whom can we trust? A father and a mother are the only people a child looks up to seek protection…We as parents are suppose to protect them…but when we become the devils whom can the child trust…..But how can we live in this fear…I just can’t understand how a father or a mother can do…on top of that…think of doing such a thing…I am sure they would have loved and nurtured those children at some stage….I am not a psychologist neither a psychiatrist….. So I might not know the psychological changes that might take place in a person’s mind….But all I know is that it’s such an inhuman behavior, and these people are not humans.
Would this have happened, or gone this far if each one of us has taken the responsibility, at the community level, at the government level or at an individual level…….All I know is that we can never be that helpless…to sacrifice our own children….
