A Letter To My Daughter…
Dear Nau.
I can’t believe that you are 14 today. Yes I still remember the little baby, the little kid who couldn’t stop her mouth for a single minute, who had so much to talk. Who was full of joy, the tiny little girl who ran around non stop from one place to another.
I was only 21 when I found about you and very naïve. It was not like today, where we go on the internet and search about tips on pregnancy. But I did borrow a book from a friend so that I could get more information. I still remember how surprised I was when I found out that at the beginning you were the size of a peanut.
While other expecting mothers had morning sickness I had evening sickness. Once you were big enough to kick you did give me a hard time. You were doing somersaults inside me. But I was enjoying every moment of it.
You started bothering me on the morning of September 19th and after a long time you came into this world on the 20th of September 3.01am. When the nurse put you in my arms I couldn’t believe that you were so small but was giving such a hard time all these months. You didn’t cry at first and they had to shake you until you cried. The sound of your cry filled my heart. I was crying and laughing.
Time has passed and our lives have changed. Even you have changed. You are not that tiny little girl who ran around. You have become a couch potato who cannot leave the TV remote. Sometimes you have a lot to talk about and than you can barely say a word. It all depends on your mood. We do have our little fights just like any mother and daughter. But we forget about it soon. I love it when you do my hair, when you select my wardrobe and do my make up when I go out. I really love and appreciate your honesty.
I have hopes and dreams for you just like any other mother. But it all depends on you. However I would try to convince you, but so far I have not been very successful in doing that…
Before signing off I would like to tell you a couple of things.
If you say I love you to someone please mean it. Never lie about it.
Live your life as if it is the last day, cause someday it would be.
If you make mistake have the courage to admit it, It doesn’t matter if you are forgiven or not, what matters most is that you took the responsibility.
Believe in your self and in your dreams.
Never forget that I love you, I always have and always will.
Love
Mom
Rekindle the romance…
Do you remember how it was when you were dating each other? How many times does he says ‘I love you”, how many times does he kiss you or hug you…Probably every time you see each other…..You could barely keep your hands off each other!…You have so much to talk that you spend hours together, even after saying bye you continue your conversation on the phone…until the wee hours in the morning. You are neither tired nor sleepy…but you love to hear the voice on the other end…But this is when you are dating. When you’re trying to win her heart. What happens when you become successful? You go on your knees and propose to her in the most romantic setting, and she says yes.
But once you get married everything changes. You take each other for granted. He knows that she would be there waiting for him when he comes home. You barely notice her when you see her. It’s the same two people who could not keep their hands off each other. What could have possibly gown wrong that you do not touch your partner the way you used. How many hours/days pass by with out you touching each other in spite of sharing the same bed?
You spend hours together but you do not have much to say…but you used to talk for hours and hours…
After marriage things settle into a routine. It’s the same routine everyday. Unless both partners are careful this could lead to one of you to cheat on another in search of some excitement in life. The excitement you miss in your married life. The excitement you had when you were dating.
Never stop saying that you love each other. Once I read about an old couple who have been married for 70 years and are still together. The husband mentioned that during the past 70 years every night before sleeping the last thing he tells his wife is, I love you. He said “Even if I die in my sleep my wife would know that I loved her till the last day”.
Actually the romance never dies. It’s just that we get accustomed to each other we get comfortable and into a routine. So if you complain that the romance has died in your marriage than one of you has to take the initiative. Take a look at your self and think what you have been doing wrong. Start today to rekindle that romance. Write on a piece of paper or tell your partner “I love you and I want to be with you for the rest of my life, Let’s work this out together”
Ramazan; Relaxing for Men, Hectic for Women..
Ramazan is a month where women spent more time in the kitchen than any other month of the year. Even if you are working woman or a house wife there is no difference. In some families women enter the kitchen as early as 11 in the morning taking breaks to pray. It all depends on the size of the family. They work non stop till they go to bed at night. Once you break the fast than it’s the cleaning up, washing the dishes,(please…why can’t the men atleast help in clearing the table) cleaning the floor and so on… Again the same plates come on the table for tharavees. After that preparing the haaru. And in between feeding the kids and putting them to bed. By the time you finish doing all this you are so exhausted that you see the bed and nothing else. You might have planned to stay up to watch that new drama on TVM, or any other TV show. But you don’t have the strength. You have to get up again, in the early hours of the morning to feed “haaru” for the family. If you over sleep than the family goes without the ‘haaru’ and everyone else would blame you for not calling them.
So where is the men folk? What is there responsibility? I will tell you! They would call you from work and ask you what you need for the kitchen. When they come home from work they would bring in the stuff, (if you are lucky everything you told them to bring) dump it on the kitchen table and leave. That’s it. Some people go out again, while others would sleep, or else stay glued in front of the TV or start browsing the net.
You ask for their help, and the excuse would be “I’m tired”. One thing men needs to understand is that women also works just as hard as they do through out the course of the day, and so being tired is not an excuse as to why you can not help out. Why can’t the men at least look after the kids while the women work in the kitchen?
A friend of mine lives alone with the husband. She told me recently that Ramazan is the most boring month. I was so surprised. I told her that I thought that it would be the most relaxing month since she does not have to do much of cooking since it’s only two of them. But she
said “My husband would come home from work and sleep, if he does not sleep he would be glued to the TV. While I do all the work”
I know some women who do not like to eat late night. So they eat their “Haaru” before going to bed. But even if they do not want to get up, they have no choice. ‘Haaru’ is prepared and it’s just a matter of putting the food on the plate and eating it. But men would need the women to put the food on their plate. It’s very rare that men would wash the dish after eating, or even put the dish in the sink.
Remember if everyone pitches in and helps out the work will get done twice as fast. and everyone will heave more time to relax. All you have to do is get out of that male ego and think about these things, and look at these things in a different perspective.
How Much Is Too Much on Facebook?
Facebook has become very popular among us. I rearely meet a person who is not on FB. So why has FB become so popular? What is in it that is so interesting? I think all networking sites are very popular and FB is the most popular among us. Facebook allows you to keep you in touch with your friends and family. You suddenly hear from a long lost friend, which is kind of nice. As the home page says “Facebook is a social utility that connects you with the people around you” which is very true.
But are we all using the FB just for that? A friend of mine who is on FB has more than 900 friends, when asked he gave a laugh and said “I don’t even know them, I just add any girl who invites me, specially if it is a nice profile picture”… Some people even have 2 different accounts. One hidden account from your husband or wife, so that you can add people from all over the world, and keep on sending them messages, hoping that someone somewhere would reply back.
I know lots of people who use FB just to flirt. So is flirting on FB ok? Application like “Marry me,Sex me, kill me, Say I wanna have se with you, Would you have sex with someone here, will you kiss me…” you name it it’s there. Imagine asking someone the same question in real life? Ho would it feel? I don’t see any difference in asking the same on FB? The only thing is you might not know who it is, or sometimes you may know? You might send it for fun, so what if you get a positive response from the opposite party? Would you take it forward?
People are creating all sorts of groups on FB that it is invading others privacy. The most amazing thing is that most of these groups are targeting women. You walk home from work and God knows where your picture would end up the next day. Isn’t this invading Privacy? Who has the right to do that?
I just feel that some of us are abusing the Facebook. It would be good to think about how much is too much on Facebook?
