Why are we never satisfied?
Recently I was watching the Oprah show and there was this MTV presenter Suchin Pak explaining how she longed for a crease in her eyes. “I don’t have a crease in my eye. My whole life, all I ever wanted was this stupid centimeter of a freaking fold in my eye.” (http://www.oprah.com/presents/2007/girl/stories/ashamed_110.jhtml)
Well we don’t need a crease in our eyes, but there are other things we long for. If we have straight hair we long for curly hair, if it is curly we want it straightened. We perm, put extensions, dye, bleach it or wear wig. Some times your friends would envy your curls or your straight hair. But funny you don’t like it.
Most of us have insecurities about the way we look. We always envy someone else. We always urge for things we don’t have… why? I don’t have an answer for that? When we look at our self in the mirror we always search for that pimple, or the black head or that wrinkle no one else see. How about we look in to the mirror, give a smile and say I look great! I don’t need any make up to hide! I am me just the way I am.
We always look into our lives and we search for what we don’t have instead of what we have. As humans that is our biggest problem. We search every where, but we don’t see what is right in front of our face. Even when we think of couples it’s probably the same in most relationships. It might be the reason why men and women cheat on their spouse. They are continuously searching for the right person, because they are not satisfied with the person whom they are with at the moment.
I am blessed with the most wonderful daughters. I am blessed with a good job. I am blessed with good friends. I am blessed with a wonderful loving man whom I want to spend my every living moment with. Am I satisfied with what I have ? I wonder if we teach our kids to be satisfied by the small things in life we could make a change.
“Cherish that. Nurture that. And believe in yourself. You’re the only who can do this so do it with gusto! A whole new world will open when you are kind to yourself first. Amazingly, others will start to respect you and show it more as well. Smile at yourself in the mirror and know that you are worthy of love!”
Memories……..
Sometimes when you hear a certain song it bring back memories from the past. This is one such song.
Killing Me Softly………………….
Stromin my pain with his fingers
Singin my life with his words
Killing me softly with his song x2
Telling my whole life with his words
Killing me softly with his song
Yea yea yea do do do do do do do do do do do do do do do do
I heard he sang a good song,
I heard he had a style,
And so I came to see him and listen for a while
And there he was this young boy
Stranger to my eyes
Chorus:
Stromin my pain with his fingers (one time, one time)
Singin my life with his words (two times, two times)
Killing me softly with his song x2
Telling my whole life with his words
Killing me softly with his song
I felt all flushed with fever
Embarrased by the crowd,
I felt he found my letters and read each one out loud,
I pray that he would finish
But he just kept right on
Another Alien Topic!
You are often a victim of workplace harassment, gender, age or disability discrimination or some other form of discrimination, unlawful employment termination and other work related illegal practices. As you are ignorant or because you don’t want to lose the job you keep quite most of the time. Just like child abuse and Violence against women this is another alien topic to most of you. Most of you would say….”NO not in the Maldives”…..How sure are you? About 2 or 3 years back we were saying the same thing to child abuse. But would we say that now? Now we say that 1 out of every 5 women has been a target of some form of abuse.
If I ask you whether you have been harassed at the work place, probably most of you would say NO! But try answering these questions.
Have your boss or a colleague ever made sexual gestures at you?
How many of you have been slapped on the ass?
How many of you have been passed awful comments or sexual comments at?
Do you feel uncomfortable around a certain person at work?
Have you ever been insulted or humiliated at work?
Have you ever been called names at?Have your colleagues ganged up against you?
Have you ever felt unwelcome at work?
These are just a few questions that came to my mind and some that I got from my quick research on the net. If you answered “yes” to any one of these question than the answer is yes! You are being harassed, whether you believe it or not, whether you are aware of it or not, or whether you deny it or not.
You might try to explain harassment or bullying in logical term. But please don’t, because it is neither logical nor decent. You might even start blaming your self, thinking that it might be something that you have done wrong. Don’t take harassment as a personality issue or a personality clash. This is depriving you of your rights and dignity. You have every right to be treated with dignity and respect at all times. Whether you believe it or not, you are entitled to happiness at work. So it’s time to stop this silent epidemic at the workplace.
why do we have mixed feelings?
what are mixed feelings? As far as I know it is when you are not sure of your self or when you are confused. This is a very common everyday situation for most humans. Look at the moment when you are about to have that new haircut you have been longing to take or when you are about to go out on your first date or when you are about deliver youre child or when you are moving over to youre inlaws, aren’t theses situation when you have mixed feelings.
Even when we are in a realtionship with the most amazing person, the person we are head over heels in love, why do we doubt that if it is truly love? why do we have this feeling that it might be lust not love? How ever much he tells you that he loves you why do we doubt it? I know, I might sound crazy but it does happen……. and I don’t know why.
Once we get married we start having mixed feelings on other issues. Some where down the line we meet this special some one…. and we start having mixed feelings. And we strongly tell our selves that we love our husbands or wives. How many of you have come across men and women who have affairs and say that they love their husband or wife? A lot…. so how can you be in love with 2 people? Is it possible? Suppose you love two people, can it be equal? Don’t think so! Even during these situation we start having mixed feelings…..Am I happily married? If I am how can some one else be on my mind 24/7?
After all this I am having mixed feelings…. why am I writing this? why am I so confused? well it’s supposed to be something very common… so I don’t need to worry….
